I ask as a general question because I need to know if it is me who has a sex drive problem or my partner.
I need to know if certain expectations are unrealistic compared with the 'norm'.
However, the research shows that at some point, too great a quantity of sex undermines quality and enjoyment," Acacia Parks, Ph.
D., a positive psychology scientist and Happify's chief scientist tells .
First of all, this is correlation, not causation—the study authors can't say whether having more sex made people happier or whether people had more sex because they were happier to begin with.
But also, they're studies, not universal commandments everyone must follow for a strong relationship."It’s hard, because I appreciate [these studies].
But what's good for some couples is not right for every couple," sex therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist Ian Kerner, Ph. "For some couples, once a week is too much depending on where they are in life, and for others it's really not enough."He's not the only expert who advises against holding yourself up to pretty arbitrary standards.
But interestingly enough, the study found no increase in happiness when people had sex more than once a week. The study, which analyzed over 15,000 people, found that people who had sex two to three times a week were happier than those who had it once a week, and so on down the line.
In fact, one study found that the happiest couples have sex an average of once a week.
So you'd be wise to focus on quality over quantity.
I feel 100% comfortable during sex because we know each other so well. But, we are both so tired after work, it just mutually never happens.”Relationship length: a year and three months Sex frequency: twice per week“I love that we're really comfortable with each other and with initiating sex, but I wish we had sex more often and prioritized it over lounging around and working when we're home.”Relationship length: 10 years Sex frequency: twice per week“I love that we've spent 10 years basically learning to have the best sex either of us has ever had. We found a few workarounds and eventually landed on a once-a-week pattern.
Now, we're both independent, but we've stuck to that schedule mostly out of habit. We spend all week teasing each other about the next time we'll be together.