Our template when it comes to a narcissist—is a man.
The apocryphal poster children—Donald Trump, Kanye West, Tiger Woods—are often men—CEOs, politicians, entertainers, athletes, garden variety bullies.
In extreme cases, it’s easy to identify the culprit. When you’re wearing sunglasses, they look at their reflection, not at you.
The problem lies when it’s not so clear, when a narcissist is cleverly cloaked as the sweet charmer.
He or she is not really interested in you, but only what he wants to extract from you (often to fulfill an inner emptiness due to the inability to create true intimacy). Lack of Reliability and Follow Through Another way to spot a narcissist is to measure her or his actions against her words. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Vol 52 No 6. It is better to find out if things are incompatible between the two of you before any knots are tied.
If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, or someone who you suspect might be a sociopath, it can be difficult to explain what's happening.
If you don’t leave early on, you will be emotionally manipulated and made to feel like everything’s your fault.
The patterns are the same—lack of empathy, entitlement, grandiosity, coldness, carelessness, neglect, vanity, superficiality.In some ways, our over-valuation of vapidity in women (just smile and look pretty) can be a hell of a setup and fertile ground to develop narcissistic women.Narcissism in a woman can be even more striking because we “expect” nurturance, kindness, softness, and emotional depth from women—so when the pretty face turns out to be just a façade—it is unsettling.You fall for their loving kind words, and you feel a connection like never before. This type of narcissist starts out as fun, sexy, and exciting. But over time, you realize they care more about themselves than about you.They don’t value the ‘WE’ in the relationship, only the ‘ME’.